Exploring BDSM as an older Black woman

Nearing my 60th birthday, my last date being more than 5 years ago; with a gentle nudge from my daughter, I downloaded a dating app to my phone and rejoined an online dating community. I knew I would encounter the fake profiles of men’s photos from decades earlier, the ubiquitous dude brandishing the big fish; and the occasional man looking to prey on women desperate to be in a committed relationship. I posted my photos from a recent trip abroad; wrote a desultory blurb; completed the inane prompts and waited.

Over the next…


Are Black women willing to be the second or third wife?

Although my ex-husband and I have been divorced for over 30 years, we have remained good friends. So much so that this year I spent a few months with him in his country. As much as I enjoyed the foods and smells and vibrancy of Dakar, the polygamous households fascinated me more. The father of my only child is a polygamist. With the prevailing shortage of eligible Black men in the United States, I wondered if Black women would knowingly sign up to be a second (or third) wife…


Two husbands may be in our future…

On May 12, 2021, the South African parliament debated the Green Paper on Marriage Act that would allow women to practice polyandry, in other words, to have multiple husbands, The proponents of the proposal: a consortium of LGBTQ, religious, and gender-nonconforming communities contended that polygamy (which is legal in SA) adheres to the heteronormative structures of patriarchal marital systems, while a woman’s right to multiple spouses is not regarded as a “normal” marital system. The advocates argue that a woman’s right to have multiple partners falls within the principle of equality for marriages…

Margaret Prescod

A writer who wants to explore all aspects of being an older Black woman in the African Diaspora.

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